Although I have never updated it myself your steps look correct. Try searching youtube videos where you see people doing the same. You'll find some. As of writing the dvds I think you should use what is recommended and not +R. Some videos here: [Only registered and activated users can see links. ] EDIT: also the car does not have to be running. you just have to sit in one place and wait patiently until it's completly done. You should not start your car while updating maps.